“So, did you finally get that leak fixed under the kitchen island?”
“What leak, Sarah? You’ve mentioned a leak twice now, and there isn’t one. I checked.”
“You said on there was water pooling near the dishwasher. You called me specifically to ask if I knew a plumber who worked weekends.”
“I never said that. You must have dreamt it. Or maybe you’re thinking of your brother’s house. He’s always having trouble with his pipes.”
This is the sound of a border being patrolled. It isn’t a conversation about plumbing, and both people in the room know it, even if only one of them is willing to admit it. The “leak” is a stand-in for a dozen other slips-the misplaced car keys that turned up in the microwave, the three identical jars of marmalade in the pantry, the way the neighbor’s name seems to have evaporated from the lexicon.
The Established Rituals of Denial
Sunday lunch usually follows a predictable rhythm. He asks about the neighbor’s name, and she reaches for it, her fingers metaphorically fluttering over an empty file cabinet. She finds nothing. Instead of pausing or admitting the void, she covers it smoothly with a joke about how the weather has been so dreary lately that everyone has turned
